If you ask around, you would know adapting to the single life as an adult is one thing people constantly fail because it can be lonely and depressing . It gets to an age where you feel lonely with your single life because your friends are starting their own families or relocating. You mostly go to work on weekdays and do chores on weekends. You have no social and dating life. If this introduction describes you, then you are lonely.
Being lonely is not a bad thing. Sherrie Bourg Carter wrote in Psychology Today that, “Solitude can enhance the quality of your relationships with others“. You are more likely to make better life choices about the company you want to keep around when you spend time with yourself and gain a better understanding of who you are.
I used to be a
people person till life happened to me. I could barely function on my own because I craved attention and companionship but I matured and learned that everyone has their own life. As we were growing, my friends were finding their better halves, relocating for better jobs and starting their families so I had to learn to love my own company.
The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself- Michel de Montaigne (significant philosopher of the French Renaissance)
This article will help you learn to be alone in a good mental health space. I have great tips on improving your alone time to help you grow. I am doing great on my own and today, I am here to help you find ways by adapting to the single life as an adult.
Activities to keep you occupied
Find your purpose in life
Figuring out why you want to do something, finding out what you love, and how beneficial it will be to the world is basically what finding your purpose means. This activity should be the reason why you get up in the morning and what keeps you going. When you find your purpose, being alone will not be a big issue because you take time setting goals and directions for your life when you are alone.
Enjoy your own company
When you enjoy your own company, you do not need anyone to be happy, even if you have someone. You should feel content with your own company. This helps you discover your passion. It makes you know that you are enough and that your happiness does not depend on anyone to feel whole.
Keep a routine
I have this routine after work and I stay consistent always. I get home, cook dinner, pray on Google Meet at 7 p.m., watch a TV series at 8 p.m., work out at 9:30 p.m., take my bath, work on my blog, and be in bed by 10:30 p.m. I enjoy this ‘
me time‘ after work and my body has adjusted so well that I get sleepy by 10 p.m.
Self-care is taking time to do things that help your physical and mental health. Most often, people let themselves go when they do not have a significant other. They do not take care of their physical health and tend to ignore their bodies. Working out does not only help your body physically but puts you in a great mental space by reducing stress, lowering the risk of illness and increasing energy levels. How To Get A Good Night’s Sleep is important in taking care of yourself to improve both your physical and mental health.
Get a hobby
Hobbies are great activities to give you peace of mind from a hectic day and make you feel refreshed. These activities should be fun and done during your leisure time. They could be playing games or sports, creative and artistic activities, etc. Having a hobby will make you enjoy your own company while remaining mentally productive.
It is not a bad thing to adapt on your own. After all, it is not every time that you will get people around you. People who understand the beauty of being alone and loving it are the luckiest people on earth. They tend to appreciate life and every least opportunity they enjoy with their loved ones.
Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.Jodi Picoult– American Author