4 Ways Of Having A Godly Relationship

A godly person cannot go into a relationship with the sole purpose of having fun with no attachments. A godly person lives like Christ. He or she should make plans for the future with the partner.

People confuse lust and love in this modern world so it is difficult to differentiate who is in love with you and who lusts after you.

Dating as a believer is totally different from dating as an unbeliever. The first thing you do when you see a potential partner or get proposed to by a believer, you pray about it.

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How to keep a godly relationship

Here are some basic things to do to have a godly relationship:

Be Spiritual

God should be the center of a godly relationship. Before you proceed to approach a person you are attracted to and want something more with him or her, you should pray to God to help you know whether they are the right person for you.

As a spiritual person, God should guide you in the relationship. Check if the person is spiritually involved in the things of God like yourself. There is a popular saying that states that “a couple that prays together, stays together“. Doing godly things together will strengthen the core of the relationship.

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Be ready to sacrifice

To sacrifice means to surrender some things for the sake of something else. In a godly relationship, one has to display affection unselfishly by putting the interest of their partner first but not to the extent of it affecting their personal life.

A typical example is, deciding on where to fellowship together. One can compromise and worship at their partners’ church after marriage. During the courtship stage, both can take turns in visiting their partner’s place of worship.

In marriages, sustaining a godly marriage is important to make your union last longer. In a godly marriage, the couple is one (Mark 10:8-10 “and the two shall become one flesh so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate.”). It is, therefore, significant to do things together especially fun activities like Netflix and ‘chill’, traveling, playing games, etc.

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Avoid sexual sin

In 2 Timothy 2:22, the Bible says we should ‘flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart’.

Before a godly couple gets married, they should try as much as possible to stay away from any sexual sin because sex is a covenant that brings psychological and spiritual problems to the soul.

Sex does not guarantee marriage in a relationship. Ways to avoid being sexual in a godly relationship include avoiding being in enclosed places, avoiding moving at odd and late times, avoiding conversations that lead to sex, etc.


Before entering into a godly relationship, it is important to learn to communicate with your partner. Be friends with each other and be comfortable. Talk about the future with him or her to see if you are both on the same or similar course. Ask yourself some important questions:

  • Does the person have a positive mindset?
  • Does the person give you positive encouragement?
  • Is the person romantic?
  • Does the person have an open heart to compromise?
  • Does the person have a good sense of humor?
  • Does the person have an excellent relationship with their parents?
  • How does the person react when angry?
  • How does the person treat other people?
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During the courtship stage of a godly relationship, it is important to avoid doing chores like cleaning, washing, and cooking as these are the duties of a wife. Men should not be obligated to give monetary support. Agreement on responsibilities is known in marriages. Do help your partner when there is the need to.

Pray to God to guard the relationship. Be careful who you share your problems with. Walk in God’s Words as a couple and it shall be well with the relationship. The goal of a godly relationship is, it should lead to a beautiful godly marriage.

Remember what the Bible says about love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

So next time you meet someone you are attracted to and would want more than friendship with them, I hope this article helps you take things to the next level in Christ. Let us try as much as possible to do things the right way as children of God as stated in Romans 12:9-10 ‘Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves‘.

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