Letting go is hard when it is unexpected and you get no reasons as to why the person called it off or changed towards you. Moving on from a person you were once attached to is one of the toughest things to do in this life.
When a person who was once your closest friend, a romantic partner, a bestie, or your go-to person stops being all that, there is no option but to move on. Trust me, I know the feeling of acting tough or putting on the ‘yeah, I don’t need you anymore’ face because I have been there many times. Ha!
I used to be afraid of letting go, saying goodbyes, and starting afresh. Imagine you have to move on from someone after sharing so many things together, had lots of fun, been intimate, keeping each other company, etc. It is hard but not impossible.
I present to you, 5 practical ways to let things go when your relationship ends unexpectedly.
5 Ways To Let Go Of A Failed Relationship
Understand its life
When you live in the reality that it’s life and things happen for a reason, you would easily let things go after it ends. This is the ultimate rule in letting that guy or girl go without it affecting your daily life. They say that when something ends, it ends for a reason. Whatever made the person call things off without a proper explanation or ghost on you, should not be your headache. It did not work out for a reason and you should be thankful to the Creator in a way.
Do not go looking for explanations and forgiveness from the person who hurt you. It will slow down the process of letting go. As they say, let go and let God.
Limit assessment. I would advise you to go low-key. Stay away from social media, especially the person’s page. The worse thing you can do to yourself is to stalk the person who hurt you. If you cannot help yourself, it’s advisable to unfollow, unfriend and delete their contact. If you are dramatic like me and know his or her number off head, you can re-edit it to ‘Don’t pick’ or ‘Ignore’ or ‘Unknown caller’.
Talk to someone you trust
A problem half shared is half solved. If you tell someone about your heartbreak or disappointment, it is easier to deal with it. Some friends are great listeners and will give you the best advice to cope with your situation. If you cannot talk to a friend or do not have someone you trust, seek professional help to guide you through the process of letting go and moving on.
If all the points stated above cannot be done by yourself, you have to see a counselor to help you out. Seeing a counselor can be an effective tool to overcome the pain of a failed relationship and disappointment.
Find a hobby
Hobbies are a great way to get distracted. Everyone has an activity they enjoy during their free time. If you love reading, get books either hard or soft copies. There are a lot of apps with lots of books you’d like; romance, finance, drama, adventure, etc. If you love cooking, try new recipes. If you love playing games, download some or get a console.
Watch interesting movies and sitcoms. Listen to music and inspiring podcasts. At best, you can learn new a skill like painting, swimming, sewing, wig-making, golfing, etc. Doing an activity you enjoy in your free time will keep you busy and not wallow in sadness.
Depends on you
Letting go depends on you. Let the negative emotions flow when you feel overwhelmed. Do not shut them out. Cry and reminisce happy moments but realize life does not always go how we want. You are in charge of your life and life is how you make it. Pick yourself up and change things in your life. Feed your thoughts with positivity. You are beautiful, you are enough and you deserve good things in life. Everything will be fine in time.
Rededicating your life is committing yourself to something new. Be fully dedicated to activities that will keep you occupied and busy so you do not wallow in sadness or self-pity. Get dedicated to the things of God and His word. Psalm 34:18 says ‘The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit’. Pray and tell God to help you go through the Find something when you’re less busy and the memories of that failed relationship start popping up.
Not everyone has human instincts like you. Try as much as possible to stay away from the person and their circle. Surround yourself and your thoughts with positivity. So cry if you feel like it but not for long, get up, bath, take good care of yourself, let go and let God.
letting go isn't the end of the world but it is the beginning of a new life. There is someone great out there for you. You will be fine, love.
Kindly let me know in the comment section your ways of letting go of a failed relationship.